How To Make Your Girlfriend Happy

When you love or care for someone, it’s only natural to desire to make them happy. Especially when you’re in a committed relationship with someone, you’ll do whatever it takes to make sure they are taken care of and feel cherished and loved. 

When thinking specifically of your girlfriend, wanting to make her happy is a wonderful way to ensure your relationship is healthy and strong. But maybe you’re not so sure how you can do that. There has to be more than just giving her flowers every once in a while, right? And while flowers are a wonderful and intentional gift to give your girlfriend, there are many other ways you can make sure she’s feeling loved on a daily basis.  

Want to know some great ways to make your girlfriend the happiest girl in the world? You’ve come to the right place! We’ve got a great, curated list of ways you can make sure you’re making her feel loved and appreciated. 

Hand Write Love Letters

As technology has become more and more popular, the art and beauty of handwriting a note or a letter have become less and less popular. But physically handwriting a letter is an incredible way to make your girlfriend happy. It will communicate not only intentionality but also through your words, it will show her how much you care for her.

Write your 10 favorite things about her, how happy she makes you, or how life has been better and sweeter since she stepped into it. To make it even better, instead of just handing her the piece of paper in person, mail it to her so she can have the experience of not only reading a love note but the experience of receiving it in the mail too. She’ll feel as if she’s walked into the world of the novel and movie: The Notebook

So head to the post office, stick a stamp to your letter, and send it out to your girlfriend—she’ll be happy when receiving kind words in a different way.

Reassure Her

Sometimes, all your girlfriend wants is reassurance that you love her, are there for her, and are committed to her. You may think you’re already showing her that, but telling her that can be even more important. Her being able to hear the actual words coming from you can help to relieve any anxieties she may be having.

95% of women answered that reassurance that involves taking steps to reassure them of their partner’s love for them helped to diminish or even eliminate the emotional turmoil that they may have been feeling. Reassurance really is just as simple as saying, “Sweetheart, we’re okay.” 

Many women like to talk things out—it helps them to feel secure and understood. Whereas, many men are the opposite and don’t see the need for talking through every little thing. Instead of getting annoyed at her for asking for reassurance or frustrated for feeling like you’re repeating yourself, view it as a way to calm her anxieties and make her happy. Most women don’t want a full length novel explaining your love to them every day, but a simple reminder of love a day can go a long way to making your girlfriend feel happy. 

Pamper Her

Your girlfriend deserves to be pampered and this is a great way to make her feel special. Pampering her can look different for each individual but here are a few ideas!

  • Spa day: Drop her off at a spa where she can enjoy a facial, massage, and time for relaxation.

  • Mani-pedi: Treat her to getting her nails and toes painted with a fresh look. 

  • Take her to coffee: Is your girlfriend a coffee addict? Take her to her favorite coffee shop and get her her favorite drink as you guys sit and enjoy each other’s company.

  • Buy her a book: Maybe your girlfriend is a huge bookworm! Take her to the bookstore and let her pick out a new book she’s had her eyes on. Bonus is that she’ll always think of you when she picks it up to read or sees it sitting on her shelves. 

  • Hair appointment: Your girlfriend might be craving a new hair-do or a freshen up on her roots, so offer to take her to the hair salon so she can get hair done. She’ll leave feeling confident and beaming at you.

  • Vineyard experience: Maybe your girlfriend is a wine connoisseur! If so, take her to a local vineyard and let her experience how they make all of their wines and try out different samples. It’s also a great date night idea!

Call Her for No Reason

With texting being the new, primary means of communication, calls between the two of you may be far and few between. You might call her to ask her a quick question that you didn’t feel like texting or call her to ask her her coffee order really quickly, but taking the time to talk on the phone and ask about their day may not be frequent.

Usually phone calls mean there is an agenda behind them— a question, a concern, or to update you on something. Call her for no reason, ask about her day, how she slept, how she’s feeling about her upcoming meeting, her dream vacation spot, or anything else that will make her feel valued! 

It’s also a great way to hear each other’s voice after a long day. Texting is great, sure, but hearing your girlfriend’s voice after a bad day can be instant relief. 

Actually Listen To Her

When your girlfriend is telling a story, actually listen to her! Being attentive and tuned into her words will make her feel seen and incredibly happy knowing that you care about what she has to say. 

There is a phenomenon known as selective hearing that many men, and women, fall into. Selective hearing is described as the ability to filter out unwanted conversation and noise. In an online survey, out of the group of men asked, about three-quarters of men admitted to tuning out conversations. This especially happens in conversations with their girlfriends, which can be incredibly frustrating and damaging to the girlfriend’s belief that you love them.

You can be attentive in conversations by nodding along with her story, asking her questions about the story during, and smiling so she knows you’re engaged. People desire to be listened to. Make your girlfriend happy by listening to her when she speaks and engage with her in conversations.

Be Intentional With Your Time

When you’re in a relationship with someone, it’s obvious that you’ll want to spend time together. Make sure you’re being intentional with your time so that you can do that! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your friends or family, but make sure you’re making time for her too.

She’ll feel loved knowing that you want to spend time with her. You can be intentional with your time by planning ahead. If you know you have a big test to study for and your girlfriend wants to hangout too, delegate your time well so you can get the studying done while also leaving room to see your girlfriend. 

There’s a well-known saying that goes, “If they wanted to, they would.” That goes for anything! If you want to spend time with your girlfriend, you’ll make the time for it. Making time by being intentional with it will show your girlfriend the sacrifices you’re willing to make to see her and it will make her incredibly happy!

Plan Out Date Nights

Date nights are the perfect excuse to shower your girlfriend with love, affection, and your undivided attention. But your girlfriend might be the one that always has to suggest you do one, or suggest what to do for them. Surprise her by planning out the date night activities yourself. 

She’ll love knowing you took the time to plan this out. The possibilities are endless, but here are a few ideas for great date nights!

  • Plan a picnic: Go all out, with a comfy blanket, a variety of snacks and food that you both love, some flowers, and pillows so you guys can relax. Lunch in a restaurant is fine, but a picnic in a scenic area with just the two of you is wonderful and romantic too!

  • Go on a hike: Take the scenic route and plan a day of hiking through the beautiful mountains, woods, or anywhere with hiking trails. It’s a great way to spend time together and have a conversation as you’re being active. Take photos of the beautiful trees or the view you’ll get to at the end, and even do a self-timer on your phone of the two of you so you can remember this day.

  • Go to an arcade: There are adult arcades, like Dave & Busters, that make the whole night fun, exciting, and competitive! Show your competitive nature as you battle to make the most basketballs go into the net or work together to fight off the raging zombies coming towards you. This date idea will keep you guys laughing and having fun all night!

  • Play mini-golf: Want another date idea that’s also competitive? Try mini-golf! Go to all of the 18 holes trying to see who can get the higher score. Make it interesting by making a bet at the beginning that whoever loses has to buy the other one dinner!

  • DIY your own painting class: Instead of paying for an expensive couples painting class, buy your own canvases at the crafts store, along with a few paintbrushes, some colorful paint, and even a bottle of wine. Paint each other or the same painting based on something you found online and see who can do it best! 

  • Go roller skating: You’ll both probably not be the best at it but it’s a fun way to make a fool of yourself while staying active!

  • Attend a pottery class: Try out a new skill by trying out pottery! You both will learn how to use the machines and how to make something that started from just a lump of clay into a beautiful mug. And you both can keep the mugs to use for later and have it as a sweet memory of that one date night you had.

  • Go to a concert: See both of your favorite bands or artists in concert and make it a night you’ll never forget! Sharing memories attached to music is a wonderful way to spend time together. You’ll both spend the whole night laughing, singing, and dancing—what could be better!?

  • Go camping: Curl up under the stars in your tents and have a night filled with bonfires, cooking on a tiny stove, and best of all—smores!

Cook for Her

Making a meal for someone is a sweet and intimate way to say you care for them. Make their favorite dish or try a new dish neither of you has had before. She might have had a long day at work and it would make her so happy to come home to a home-cooked meal on the table. 

You can even get subscriptions that make the exact amount you need for meals for two. You can pick the meal and it’s delivered right to your door ready to cook!

Make it sweet with flower petals leading to the table, candles lighting up the area, and music playing to make it a romantic scene. She’ll be so appreciative that you took the time out of your day to cook for you guys.

Know Her Love Languages

Love languages, developed by Gary Chapman, are the way we feel love and the way we give love. Knowing your girlfriend’s top love languages are incredibly important in making her happy and ensuring she feels loved. The five love languages include:

  • Physical touch
  • Quality time
  • Words of affirmation
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service

There is a quiz that can be taken to help you find your top three love languages. Once you know them, it’s good to communicate them to your partner. If your girlfriend doesn’t know hers, ask her to take the quiz and share the results with you so you can know how to make her feel loved! 

If her top love language is physical touch, she’ll love to have her hand held walking in the grocery store, or a hug as you’re waiting in line. Show her how you love her through these love languages and it will make her on top of the world!

Support Her

Knowing someone is in your corner rooting for you is the best feeling in the world. Giving support is much more than one might initially think. The definition of support is, “to bear or hold up; serve as a foundation for”. Being your girlfriend’s foundation means being there during the good and the bad days. 

Be supportive of her career choices, her life choices, and even the small, everyday choices. Maybe she’s thinking about changing career paths but she’s not sure if she’s good enough or is too scared to. Support her, comfort her, and of course, encourage her. Knowing that someone is there for her through life’s stresses will be a huge comfort to her and make her feel loved.

Follow Through

Make your girlfriend happy by following through with the promises and things you have said in the past. If you say you’ll come to her volleyball game, make sure you get there. If you say you’ll buy the next meal at dinner, make sure you actually do. If you say you love her, show her.

Not committing or following through on actions or promises you have told your girlfriend can create a lot of tension and confusion. Of course, life happens, and you won’t be able to make it to everything. But as long as you’re making the effort, she’ll be appreciative!

Gift Her The Lovebox

If you’ve been dating for a few months, the same old text messages and phone calls can get...boring to say the least. Communication might feel like it’s lacking. What’s probably lacking is that neither of you has The Lovebox! It’s a gift that is a little more heartfelt, intentional, and can be used again and again for a unique and creative way to make your girlfriend smile.

The Lovebox is a connected, messaging device that pairs with an app to go beyond regular communication and deliver instant expressions of affection, even from a distance! It’s an accessible and easy-to-use device that allows you to send through the app: photos, colored messages, fun stickers, silly doodles or drawings, and so much more. Send your girlfriend a few messages throughout the day that will be sure to make her smile.

Maybe you and your girlfriend are in a long-distance relationship. If so, this is the perfect gift for you two. It makes communication fun and gives you guys another way of expressing your love for one another. If you’re missing your girlfriend throughout the day, just send her a quick sweet message and it will make her day.

One couple who has been using their Lovebox has said that “This is one of the coolest items to keep your relationship strong! Sure you could text your loved ones, but the Lovebox creates anticipation. It has also created some curiosity at my wife’s work and even they get excited when the heart spins!” 

As mentioned in the testimonial from the customer, when your girlfriend receives any of the messages you send, the Lovebox’s heart on the front of the box will spin, notifying her of her personalized message! It’s the perfect gift to make communication creative and consistent—even far away.

Making your girlfriend doesn’t have to be hard and there’s no “equation” for it. Sending her a sweet message or funny drawing through the Lovebox is a way to show her you care for her and it will make her so happy to know you’re thinking of her.

Create a Photo Album or Scrapbook for Her

Gather all of the photos you guys have together and create a photo album or scrapbook that she can flip through all the time! The photo album can tell a story, from the time you guys first met and went on your first date, to now and all of the adventures and memories you’ve shared with one another over the months or years. 

If you’re wanting to create a scrapbook, make it creative like a travel scrapbook! The premise of a travel scrapbook is to show where you all have traveled to and where you both want to go next. It’s like making a travel bucket list! 

Maybe the two of you love to travel and have daydreamed about where you guys could go. Make it a reality by putting it in the travel scrapbook and having a jar of money that you both add to whenever you have extra change. It’s giving us all of the movie Up vibes and we love it!

Be Friends With Her Friends and Family With Her Family

When someone lets you in their life and cares enough for you to introduce you to their family and friends, it means they really value you! Make sure you’re valuing this precious invitation back. It’s hard for many people to open up enough to let their friends and family in. 

Become friends with her friends and create actual relationships with them so you’re not her partner, but their friend too! And with that, become like family with her family by being intentional, kind, and generous. They’ll open their arms up to you and welcome you in with big hugs. Your girlfriend will appreciate all of the efforts you’re trying to make by pouring into relationships with the people already in her life.

It’s Simple, Really

When you love or care for someone, you’re willing to do just about anything to make sure they’re always feeling loved and appreciated. If you’re wanting to make your girlfriend happy, it’s simple really. Any of the above suggestions will make her feel loved and cared for. 

Whether it be planning out date nights, pampering her one day, being intentional with your life, gifting her the Lovebox, or knowing her love languages, she’ll be happy knowing you care for her enough to do those things for her.




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